I had a night of dreams of all kinds………. especially one dream.
 
I was attending a course in Europe and I was given the address to my accommodation. I looked high and low but just could not locate it. In fact, while searching for it, the whole area looked so bad and I felt short-changed. I looked and looked to no avail. I was so angry and frustrated.
 
In fact, I was so fed up looking for it and got angrier and angrier, that I woke up and shouted to myself, “Stop looking for it”! Then, I went back to sleep. Just as I was falling asleep, the dream continued and the apartment appeared right in front of me and it was the kind of furnishing that I was comfortable with, and in fact a cosy and beautiful one. I was pleased.
 

Moral of the story:
 
How often in our life, we think we are not getting what we want and become frantic about it and keep on searching and searching. The more we search, the more we are not getting it. Then when we let it go or drop it…….. it appears and a beautiful one indeed (one that exceeds our expectations).
 
When things are not going the way we want – Stop! Take a breather and in a different perspective, we see light. Let the light come to you…… stop searching and just “Be”.
 
Happy Wednesday my dear friends!

 
P.S. Please check out my video blog at www.livingafulfillinglife.com. Enjoy!

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I believe by now, you know full well that the only way to be happy is to tune inwards to one’s core.
 
I like to expand on this tuning inwards. Think about this scenario – how to tune inwards when a person has not cultivated “Goodness”? I am not insulting anyone however, I find that so many people give me a blank look when I say to them to tune inwards or focus on their core. Many have expressed, “What core”?
 
Cultivation is the name of the game.
 
This is my 5th Happy Principle:
For today, I cultivate Positive values.
 
Choose a positive value such as integrity, dignity, harmony, honesty, etc….. By cultivating positive values one at a time, you are in fact strengthening your Core.
 
Happy Cultivating! Happy Wednesday!

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Happiness starts from within and we know it as a sure fact and yet, we allow it to disappear quickly especially under stress or pressure.
 
I have a do’s/ don’ts list to keep me mindful about being happy.
 
1. Don’t expect happiness from the outside, person, things or events. (When these circumstances change we may crash or go through an emotional roller coaster). Everything that comes from the outside is only momentary. It comes and it goes. I treat them as bonuses.
 
2. Don’t focus on difficult times. Remember this quote, “When the going gets tough, the tough gets going” by Joan W. Donaldson and the song by Billy Ocean.
 

 
3. Don’t focus on the problems at hand. Think of Solutions. Your intuitive self and the Divine are always around to help you. Also, remember the good things that have happened in your life. Do the 3rd Happy Principle, “For Today, I count my blessings and practice Gratitude”.
 
4. Do Happy. You have a choice whether to be happy or not. You may not have had any control over some of the outcomes in your life however, you have the ability to control your response. After all, being sad, depressed, angry, upset, etc. has no positive benefits.
 
Happy Wednesday brothers and sisters

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I would like to start with a question for you.
 

What do you do when you receive ugly comments (in my case, on my you-tube video). I mean really ugly as the following;
 

You are one UGLY CHICK!
You sound like a fucking GUY WITH TITS.
You’re on the ugly female hypnotists list!
Friends don’t let friends hypnogoggle!
 

Interesting!
 

In my case, it did not even cause a scratch on my skin. In fact, it was good as it made me realise that it is time to update the video as it was done about 2 years ago. Many of the information is no longer relevant as the course has since evolved.
 

Moral of the story!
 

1. No one can hurt you unless you allow it.
2. Everyone is entitled to their opinions but I do not have to buy in.
3. Stay true to one’s core and continue the life path enthusiastically.
4. Look for the positive as to what one can do even better.
 
Happy Wednesday regardless.
 
From Happy Nancy

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Kinda a little late today doing my post ……… busy busy day!
 

Something very obvious but yet important and overlooked that will keep us HAPPY.
 

EXERCISE
 

I have been using running which allows my brain to produce the natural “Happy Drug” Endorphin. Heard of the runner’s “high”?
 

For many exercises, let alone running and I mean running puts many people off as it appears like hard work, even walking. Today, one of my graduates that needed to come to my house to get the key to the office. She only had to walk 3 mins and she reported it was such hard work even though it is a short journey.
 

Gee! when we program our mind that being physical is hard work….. then how can one become happy as there will be be too many things that have the appearance of difficulty?
 

Start doing baby steps, stop any kind of excuses. Go out and brisk walk or run and you will feel happy. The “happy drug” will kick in and throughout the day and days to come, you will be whole lot more motivated. For the next one week, push yourself to do 3 times a week and you will find the shift in yourself.
 

Happy Exercise, Happy Wednesday.

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I like to add one more happy principle.
 

4. For Today, I learn patience and practise tolerance by remaining silent.
 
Many of us including myself, being patient can be a tall order. It feels like a virtue from a highly evolved person. And hence, being impatient becomes an accepted norm.
 

I had discovered over the years, impatience has to do with 2 aspects; one – not being tolerant and two – not needing to be defensive or reactive by being silent.
 

Cultivation is required in the practice of any principle. Let’s practise the 4th principle today.
 
Tolerate all that comes and keep silent by not reacting to even the most irritating person in your life. (if you have any)
 

Please do just that today and you will immediately feel much, much, much happier.
 

Happy Patience Day
 
(please post your results, let’s learn from each other and live a better and better life.)

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I have been teaching this concept about “Pain” and “Pleasure”
 
The human being has a natural build in mechanism –   move towards pleasure away from pain. It’s a good thing. But, when our brain gets distorted and use pleasure and pain wrongly then the results would be negative.
 
For example, weight management.
 
If food is a pleasure and exercise is the pain, you can then imagine the results LOL
 
The correct one would be;
 
If being fat is a pain and to move away from it, one has to eat sensibly and exercise regularly so that one becomes healthy and fit which is the pleasure.
 
Success is a pleasure and to move towards it, one would have the motivation and to do whatever it takes positively to reach the goal. Therefore, discipline, endurance and persistency is the fuel instead an issue.
 
Think about your pain and pleasure ………  work towards your pleasure and move away from your pain.
 
Happy Wednesday

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For those whom had been following this blog may be disappointed that I did not post yesterday. I was away from my computer all day till 10.00pm.
 
I spent the day with my eldest sister, Margaret (had sacrificed her life for the family). Due to my time factor, I make it a point to have lunch with her and catch up with the family stories. (I get all the news through her) at least once every 2 months.
 
Yesterday, we started with a sumptuous buffet lunch at Mandarin hotel and then we were stuck at the handbags department in Takashimaya for 2 hours or more. It was her daughter, my god daughter 16 birthday 2 weeks ago and I want to get something really nice for her.
 
Later in the night Crystal my goddaughter  text me and her message as follows;
 
“Thank you for your presents, these bags are WAYYYY too branded, Thanks and love U”
 
sense the happiness of a 16 year old …….
 
After the buy, we continued with our drinks till 7.00pm before I head towards my Argentina Tango class. When my sister headed home her face glows
 
It may appear like a eat, shop, drink day. However, it is way more than that because Margaret is a stay home mum and when she goes out with her beloved sister. This is the time when she gets to be herself and indulge. She is very self-sacrificing, her thoughts is always for the family and not hers. When she is with me, she just let go and enjoy herself to the core.
 
Being happy is to be able to do things with another and see the JOY in that person. You will rub off from their joy and your  happiness continues. Just like this morning when I got up, I had a smile on my face.
 
Happy day continues…………. stay Happy

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After couple of weeks of rain, the last couple of days had been sunny. Enjoy the sunshine
 

Staying happy regardless can be an eluded idea for some especially when one faced with marital or relationships problems.
 

Lets call him “Tom”, he got married just over a month (end of May) and had been a swinging bachelor for the last 36 years. Relatively successful and live a carefree and happy life. (good family upbringing)
 

He called me last Sunday and I had never once heard his voice that low and dull – sounding absolutely depressing in the 4 years I knew him. Here’s the story.
 

His wife is 11 years younger than him and when I knew of this fact. I told him to manage “his wife to be” expectations. He is one guy, very focused and he has just joined a way bigger organisation and in a different league. And hence, he needs a very supportive wife that gives him the space rather than expect him to give in to her whimps and fancy.
 

When he called me on Sunday, he had a big fight with his wife on Friday night and in fact, tension started building up after his honeymoon, when he started his job in the new organisation. While she knew he was stressed, she still expected him to give in to her and hence the aggression when he is not doing that.
 

Lets come to the point, when face with adversity as such, how does one stay positive and be happy.
 

These are the 3 steps process.
 

1. List down the important expectation of yours and your partner, then compare notes
so that you can negotiate a position that both can live with.
 

2. Each party working on their weaknesses
 

3. Be transparent with each other (not necessary easy but crucial) and review constantly
 

I personally have used these 3 steps process and works for me. I hope it will work for those with challenges as such.
 

Happy Wednesday

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Time waits for no man……. its Wednesday again. Happy Day!
 
For whatever reason, the Universe is presenting a lesson for me to learn in the last few weeks. My 2 wonderful assistants got sick and they have gone on a break. This does not sit well with me because, there are so much I want to do, projects, implementing ideas etc and for obvious reasons I have put them on hold.
 
Am I happy with it?
 
Of course not BUT, even I am unhappy there is nothing I can do to change it otherwise.
 

 Mind you, it is not always easy especially when I’m a driven person and wants to get things done. However, I am mindful with the following philosophy.
 
WE CAN’T CONTROL THE THOUGHTS THAT SLIP INTO OUR MIND BUT WE CAN CONTROL WHAT WE DO WITH THOSE THOUGHTS.
 
I also continue to engage in activities that is joyful and constructive, it sure helps keep me in a good zone.
 
Stay Happy…… regardless

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